Charles, I really hate to sound condescending, I'm not but... that's a typical AOL lovers response. I've seen it a thousand times.

You don't get all your email, whether you realize the problem or not.
You're going to have to trust me on this. I deal with it on a daily basis and have for years.
Of all initial registrations 15-20% on our forums go unconfirmed (link in email not clicked),
90% of those are AOL email addresses. This has been a dead steady, unwaivering fact for years.
All accounts that go unconfirmed after a few days get an email from me from a different email domain (my Comcast account),
95% of those AOL emails go unanswered again.
I can't tell you how many members we have lost because AOL thinks you can't manage your email on your own.