I Need Help With Chain Card Etiquette/Rude Request

Please forgive me if this post belongs in a different forum.


I signed up for my first chain card. (Basically, a group of people each send a postcard in a certain order. You receive a postcard with cancelled stamps, add more from your own country, and send again. You end up with your original card full of stamps.)

I signed up for a bird theme chain card with four people. Everyone except the host placed their bird stamps in the right hand corner. She placed hers in the left hand corner; strange, but not a big deal. I placed my stamps below her. Because there was only enough space for two rows of stamps (hers were quite large) and most of the postmark was slightly below the edge of her stamps, I decided to place my stamps right along the bottom corner. That way she would still get to see the postmark.

I posted the photo proof and she asked why I hadn't placed my stamps next to hers. US stamps come with adhesive on the back that is much stronger than adhesive from most asian countries. Once adhered, they DON'T COME OFF. But by some miracle I was able to remove them and adhere them again. She sent me another message saying she wanted them on the right hand side of the card. There's no way I can move them a second time without ruining them and having to buy new stamps.

Now this is where I really get mad. The stamps I used are from a pet series. Each series, about $10usd, comes with two bird stamps, about $1usd. Although the stamps aren't actually worth much, I do have to spend almost $20usd to send one postcard because she doesn't like where I put them.

I feel she is being unreasonable and rude, but she's the group host so she is kind of in charge.How do I respond to her ridiculous request?

When a verbal sword is raised, instead of reaching for a bigger one, consider disarmament:

Dear Host:

I did not see such specific instructions in your last message, but I know you will enjoy the lovely stamps that I had previously purchased and affixed to the card, which I have posted to you today. This service is such a gift to all of us!

Warmly,
PanicPost


I realize that "Warmly" takes it to a saccharine level, but it may be worth it.

Chris

And after sending this conciliatory message, make a vow never to take part in any chain schemes again.

Why don't you just tell her what you told us? You affixed the stamp a second time next to hers at her request before you received the other message and you can't move it a second time, sorry. Then add some stuff about you all enjoying the stamps...blessing to all...whatever.